When I was pregnant with my first son (in 2009), I had the incredible opportunity to be a paid blogger for What to Expect When You’re Expecting’s website. This first introduction into the world of working online opened my eyes to the potential of working from home, and I haven’t looked back since! I always wanted to stay home with my children. Working from home as a mom allowed me to pursue a career, hone my skills, and give me flexibility to set my own schedule.
But… even though it is the ideal situation for me and my family, it is not easy!
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I have learned so much about balance through my years of working from home, and while it is always a work in progress, here is what I want to pass along to you…
Working from Home Facts:
You can’t do it all.
You can try, but you are going to become frustrated, overwhelmed, and down on yourself. Trying to do it all feels like you aren’t doing anything well. Instead, I have found it helpful to make sure that I am clear on my priorities. My two main priorities right now? My family and my career. This makes it very clear that other areas and responsibilities are simply not a priority right now.
Unfortunately, just because cleaning my house or making dinner isn’t a priority right now doesn’t mean that it magically happens without me. But it does mean that I can look for creative solutions and ask for help in those areas.
Recently I started ordering groceries online. I just simply pull into the designated parking spot, call them, and they bring everything out to my car. I am also signed up for Home Chef so that we get nice, better-than-takeout meals delivered to our doorstep (you can skip weeks whenever you’d like, so I typically do this bi-weekly to save a little bit of money). When it comes to cleaning the house, I’ve been enlisting the help of the whole family more often instead of letting the burden fall on me alone. But I also have friends that use and love cleaning services!
The other piece of letting go and trying to do it all – is letting go of the guilt. You should not try to do it all, and you should not feel guilty about that.
Treat working from home like a real job.
Working from home is wonderful. There are flexible hours which allows you to be there for your kids when they need you most. You can even work at the kitchen table while they play beside you.
But… the downside is that it is very hard to set aside time where you can truly focus. Even when you try to set aside time to work, it will quickly get over-ridden by someone with a “real” job.
There have been times where I was going to leave the house (or lock myself in a room) for a few hours in the evening, but then my husband ended up working late. If I had to go to a job and clock in at a certain time, that wouldn’t have happened. It is hard to make working from home a priority, and it is okay to maintain flexibility. But the problems arise when this type of thing happens over and over again.
Seeking out childcare for my young kids was one of the best decisions I made. I am now able to knock out a whole bunch of work during the minimal hours that they are in childcare. Then I can spend more quality time with them when they get home, instead of feeling like I had to work in 5 minute spurts whenever the opportunity arose.
There are times when I feel like I work every day, weekend, and evening; but am not accomplishing as much as I’d like to. This is often a symptom of inefficiency, and is a sign that I need to revamp my schedule.
Take advantage of the benefits that come from Working at Home.
There are SO many benefits to working from home, but I oftentimes find myself forgetting that this is a luxury. I now have the flexibility to go out to breakfast once in a while, or go do something fun during the day. I can work outside, at a coffee shop, or at the library. And I can work ahead, or take a little bit of a breather when needed.
But I tend to get stuck in the daily grind. I get caught up in the workload and the day to day tasks. And sometimes I forget that I have a ton of control – ball’s in my court!
I need to remember that I chose this career path to be home with my children and to spend more time with them, – and not just to get snippy with them while I am trying to work on the computer. On the days where going in to an office seems like it would be easier, I need to remind myself that I get to live in sweatpants 😉
Working from home is hard. Working from home is work. And working from home can be stressful. But working from home is the best of both worlds for me!
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